Conversely, if you are simplifying a particular set of personality traits, cultural outlooks, or social and/or economic status into a racial shortcut, that is definitely racist. It's one thing to say I don't date violent men. completely reasonable, but if that the continues . and blacks are more violent, therefore I won't date blacks that is definitely racist. If your racial preference is founded on an assumption of nonphysical traits, this is definitely a problem.